I’m asked with a fair amount of frequency of my mildly successfully life thus far, “How did you get to where you are? What did you do to be successful?”
To which I normally reply something along the lines of, “A lot of hard work and a good deal of luck.”
Both of those are true; I work hard and I’ve had some good luck with being in the right place at the right time. But today, I think I may have a different answer.
I had the wonderful opportunity to sit down with my friend and colleague Justin Bayless for his Relentless Mentality podcast. In this episode, I discuss the benefits and challenges for women in business, how it’s never to late to build your dream business, as well as how self-motivation and learning from my mistakes has led to my success today.
Last week, I restarted a podcast-style webinar series of conversations with women, about women, many or most who work in male-dominated fields and have found a sense of something that works for them. Call it: success, adaptation, fervor, badass-ness.
I can’t tell you how happy I was to launch the series with my very good friend, Margaret Lake, who has had more than her share of experiences to share.
And she didn’t disappoint.
Sunday night I watched the 60 Minutes piece (yes, by the way, this is still a Sunday night habit since I was about 8 years old) featuring Marc Benioff, CEO of Salesforce being incredibly transparent and honest about what he discovered at his very cool company regarding gender disparity.
Please go watch the piece here.
Secondly, this weekend we watched a grave Starbucks error in judgement with the arrest of two black patrons who were doing nothing white patrons don’t do every day, and the company’s slightly slow and tepid response. I was frankly, looking for a little more anger here from CEO Kevin Johnson.
It’s easy to talk about what we think and feel and how we believe we should do something differently.
We have all said things like, “I want to be a writer,” or “I want to learn a new language” or even, “Our country is headed in a direction that I don’t like, why don’t they do something?” but it all means little until there is action.
I’m a little pissed off.
But you see, I’m not an angry person – I’ve been called bitchy or bossy before (which I don’t mind), but not angry.
After raising my three girls in what I thought was a post-feminist era, having the good fortune to enter the tech field in the late nineties with a group of men and women who worked together without barriers, now – now in the 21st century, I’ve been awakened again to the ugly reality of sexism’s far reaching tentacles and finding out that we’re not where I thought we were.
I’m fresh off one of the best hours or so I’ve spent in months. Maybe years. I want to believe I’m an advocate for women succeeding in their careers, business and life – but I don’t often get to see the energy of several hundred women in a room together expressing their successes, frustrations, hopes and dreams.
I am the first to admit I live a pretty dreamy life. I’ve been married to my best friend and soul mate for over 30 years. I have 3 amazing daughters who love me, allow me to be part of their lives, and continually amaze me with their strength and beauty. I love my work, travel frequently, have a lovely home, garden, a strong family, and incredible friendships.
That’s the pretty part. Continue reading
You know it’s a good vacation when I have no idea of the date or the time as I sit to write this post. I’m in the incredibly enviable position of sitting on a beautiful, almost empty beach of a remote fishing village on the pacific coast of Mexico. I’ve digested the newest Dan Brown novel, a half dozen magazines and entirely too much tequila on night one.
Too many times, I’ve thought a little too much on my time off, or spent it discussing, analyzing and dreaming – only to return to my life either feeling discouraged or wishing I was in a different place.
Yesterday I did an annual review with an employee – I was a bit distracted by an upcoming doctor visit and we ended up talking more about life than anything. She’s a single mom, deals with the usual anxiety (as do many of us) and has been thinking about returning to school…but as we chatted, she said, You know, things are just kind of calm right now, and I’m not sure it’s the right time to add school to my life.
Now, while I truly believe in education, bettering oneself, and moving ahead in life (whatever that means) – I completely got what she was saying. Continue reading